Find a Mistress I: Attitude and Communication
This is a note on a very sore subject – how to find a Mistress, if you are a submissive man. I take it for granted, that you already know who you are. I presume, that you are a submissively oriented guy. During long nights, you keep watching a Femdom porn and read Femdom erotica, so you need to be… But you already sorted out your inner doubts and know that your submissivity to dominant women is deeply ingrained in your sexuality. If you are not sure, I will shortly publish an article for sub novices. That will help you with on sorting out your true slave personality.
From experience I can tell, what is the ultimate sexual and emotional satisfaction of a deeply submissive man. It is the sense of being owned by an exquisite Domina, often in a female led relationship. The majority of aspiring slaves are people with a job, a family. Except their wild Femdom fantasies, relatively normal men. The submission, after all, is not unconditional, but narrowly focused on the object of your desire – beautiful Dominant WomenI am sure, there is no need to elaborate, you get the picture. So how on earth do you win such a woman, how you find a Mistress of your dreams?
Submissive male attitude
In the perspective of the vanilla public, the submissive man is an inherently passive creature, whose only ambition in life is to be pliable as clay, have no say at all and be bossed around all day by a leather-clad vamp woman. Everyone within the community of BDSM positive people know, the reality is somewhat different. The number of those, who would match this stereotypical character, is very low. Even though your role in the relationship with a Dominant Woman is passive, or receiving, your quest to find one has to be the direct opposite of passivity. Submissive male in our culture needs to be proactive like any other man, who seeks a partner. Get proactive and improve your chances by acquiring skills dominant women require. You need to be ready and have no doubts, when you plunge into a new D/s relationship.
Communication
Unfortunately, there is ten times more slaves than dominant women, so the task to find a Dominatrix is a daunting one. Most of you just use the wonderful opportunities of virtual communication. The challenge is to get through all the pretense and falsehood, all the Findom and greediness of the Dominant Women, that see their vocation in being the true Doms.
So you finally found the ONE. She is beatiful, hot, clever and sexy and you send her a message without giving it a second thought. Let me assure you, that message you send to me or any other dominant woman around, is one of hundreds or even thousands. If you just inform a Domme you want to serve her, because you are – according to your words – great/obedient/willing to serve/desperate/you name it, the Domme will ignore or ban you. I devised a concise Male to Female Translator of Flawed Initial Femdom Communication, troubleshooting the most common mistakes of initial communication with a Domme. It is a part of the second volume of the Tutorial on Finding a Mistress. You need to learn to talk to them on their terms! In the courses of the University of Slavery and Servitude I teach how to be proactive without harming chances to attract the perfect Mistress.
Next time I will explain to you, WHY you need to stop treating a Domme like an Extraterrestrial being!
Start a course at the University of Slavery and Servitude and fulfill your dreams, I will teach you all you will ever need to succeed in finding the Dominatrix you would adore and love.
Failure is only postponed success as long as courage ‘coaches’ ambition.
Albert Einstein
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