Seeking a Femdom Marriage, Part I: The Ideal Domme Out There

In the last years I had the privilege to forge deeper relations with some of my long term friends in the Femdom community both through virtual contact, phone calls and I have to admit that also by immensely enjoyable private Femdom experiences in four or six. It is universally known that I do not particularly fancy associating with couples, who thrive on the opposite side of the spectrum, i.e. the Maledom couples. That does not mean though I do not acknowledge their absolute freedom to pursue the joy and happiness in any sort of arrangement they fancy. My love for freedom is too passionate to oppose any safe, sane and consensual life arrangement. But after all, birds of a feather flock together and nothing can be more true about my BDSM associations. A Femdom marriage is therefore one of the most preferred arrangements among my BDSM friends.

The Happiest Femdom Marriage Couples

Throughout the years I acquired a rare insight into the workings of the real life Femdom relationships. I have to emphasize that I forged the closest bonds with those couples that resemble the most my own model of relationship. Unsurprisingly, these are the happiest couples in BDSM I have seen. What works in my relationship works in theirs too. That definitely is not a coincidence! I will not be so tight-fisted to keep the undoubtedly intriguing information for myself. Take it as a sneak peek through the keyhole to the homes of those Femdom couples that found their happiness and long term stability. Those who perfectly understood the universal principles behind a sustainable and realistic Femdom based life.

Therefore I introduce to you this new series on seeking a Femdom marriage. If you are currently on the lookout for your Ideal Domme, it is dedicated to you. This serial will get new posts as long as I enjoy writing it. Give me your feedback in comments, if you want another part come to existence and be sure to share it! Today I will provide you with my first observation on looking for the perfect partner to form a Femdom marriage. The advice is obviously true and valid  for any other long term Femdom arrangement.

The Leather Clad Vixen on the Scene

One of my former slaves told me a story of his dating experience that would come very handy. He agreed I can share this with you too. Years and years from our brief encounter as a Domme and slave, we met again to discuss our BDSM lives in the soothing atmosphere of a quiet café. He gradually unfolded the story, sipping a tiny cup of espresso with back hunched in apparent frustration. This aging and already bald forty-something had the advantage of being in touch with young women profesionally. As he was currently single, he decided to fulfill his lifelong ambition to find himself a Domme.

One day a young lady arrived to the scene and he was stunned. It was HER! His dream come true. Long wavy hair, short leather skirt and sky high leather stiletto boots. He had no doubts. She was sending the right signals. She was bossy, authoritative, projected incredible self-confidence and was oh-so-beautiful. Guess what? He summoned all his courage and asked her out. And to my surprise – he isn’t exactly handsome – she didn’t say no! As he said, she unquestionably belonged to the rare species of Dommes you can tell at first sight…

A Great Surprise in the Park

After all those years of waiting, he didn’t want to lose a single minute, when the Right One appeared. He invited her to walk in the local park to have the privacy to talk. Guess what? He was so daring as to kneel down and try to kiss her boots in the first twenty minutes! That day he learned that objects CAN move faster than the speed of light. She was gone before he could say dumbass. She obviously was not a Domme, she just enjoy looking like a flirt, relish attention of men and perhaps likes motorcycle culture or the feel of leather on her skin. That by itself does not make her a Domme!

Signals of Dominance

Dommes are made every day as well as they are naturally born. With a good guide book in her hand or Domme friend to introduce her into the wonders of Femdom she might have had become one. Now we will never know. So the lesson for you is as follows: Don’t rely on what you consider to be “signals” of Dominance – especially if the “signals” are only clothing or bratty ways.

The Prospect of a Femdom Marriage and the Illusion of an Ideal Domme

If you never met any Femdom couple this might not be as apparent, but most of the Dommes you will meet in your life are really charming personalities, outgoing, amiable, self-assured and sexy but not always explicitly dominant in demeanor! I dare say that no one really likes to associate with a bratty bitch, who bosses her friends around. Not outside the BDSM fantasy, anyway. Dommes, who are born that way learn throughout their life they cannot boss everyone and most often don’t feel the desire anyway.

What remains timeless truth – the most often than not, males fail miserably in trying to distinguish a “Domme material” woman from a regular vanilla. What they got is a blueprint that is ingrained in their brain just as if it was planted there through some alien UFO experiments. A persistent illusion.  If you spend your life waiting for the abstract ideal you do not stand a chance. Think the decrepit old lady,  surrounded by moldy old furniture, cats with rickety legs and timeworn memories, because she spent her youth waiting for the perfect man to appear?

It’s time to gear up for your Femdom dating efforts! A successful Femdom marriage is a rare thing, rarer perhaps than the Sumatran Rhinoceros. But if you don’t know what you are doing, there is likelihood close to zero that you would somehow land a dream relationship. Keep up with the University of slavery and servitude to learn more!  Learn today and succeed tomorrow.

… to be continued.

Did you already read my other articles?

Find a Mistress II: 3 Ladykiller Tips on Dominatrix Dating

24/7 Slave Personality: 3 Key Traits

How to find a True Dominatrix

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