The Secret Femdom Mind Control Techniques Part I: A Manual for the Domme.

This article serves as a thorough exploration of the Femdom mind control methods, useful both to Dommes AND submissives. It is essentially a guide for all Dommes, who desire to expand their influence over their slaves and subs.

Femdom mind control conditioning basics

Mind control techniques in a D/s play-space begin with the mutual agreement that the Domme makes all the rules (AN EXAMPLE). The sub commits to obeying them, with both of them acknowledging the shared intention of the sub’s total sexual submission in order to enhance and improve his obedience in any way the Domme deems necessary.  It is often a very important part of the kink for the sub to be required to acknowledge that once he agrees to let the Domme use mind control techniques on him for training purposes, he surrenders all rights to object to or end the mind control conditioning. The Domme will be in complete control of the conditioning and programming, and the sub will be punished for anything but full, immediate and eager compliance to Her commands and instructions. As an initiative, It is irresistible seduction coupled with forced entry. It is the Domme taking up residence on a throne at the very deepest, most primal core of the sub’s being. She is just like an Old World explorer, laying claim to his mind in its entirety. Again it is the Domme understanding the sub’s already-growing obsession with Her, and wickedly seeking out more ways to deepen his obsession with Her until there is simply no means of escape left for him… and then beginning to dominate him in earnest. It is consensual behavior modification designed to reward and reinforce the proper slave mindset, and punish and destroy any other.

Brainwashing methods

The sub typically responds sexually to receiving instructions and suggestions that keep him increasingly focused on the Domme and the exchange of power that She is initiating. This sort of conditioning is for subs who truly seek a D/s relationship that is entirely about a total power exchange. The Domme is the totalitarian Authority, and the sub as Her personal property, stripped of all rights and forced ever deeper under Her complete control. The Domme should not underestimate the value of assigning simple, mind-numbingly repetitive mantras to Her sub, ideally along with instructions to worship Her in some way at the same time.

The Domme’s control will  grow exponentially stronger over the sub when She starts ‘sealing off the exits’ in the sub’s mind. When she makes rules for him. Brainwashes him with high-repetition mantras while requiring him to gaze at the Domme’s images. Forbids any contact with anyone else on any Femdom social media without the Domme’s express written permission. Seals the sub inside the Domme’s world, and allows him to re-assume his normal self only as needed.

Keeping the sub teased, frustrated and horny while assuming a very Dominant position over him will force his erotic fantasies to rewrite themselves to center around the Domme as the Goddess, the Mistress. When the sub is instructed to constantly think of the Domme, his submissive fantasies will surface. More like they force their way into his consciousness and stay there. This is where it gets interesting for the Domme: She could consider requiring the sub to write about such scenes and fantasies that come to light when he think of Her, and torture the hell out of him with them. Keep the sub constantly locked in such fantasies, make the sub write about them, and then suggest some more details to the scene he describes, to make it more pleasing to the Domme, and importantly, tailored to the Domme.

In this way, the Domme could literally take over the sub’s own fantasies one by one. Up to the point that the Domme is eventually controlling what the sub fantasizes about. For example, making the sub write about his teasing and denial fantasies while keeping him chaste would get to him very, very quickly.

Example: “Mmmm, I just love seeing you so sexually frustrated… you write so much better that way. So, write Me a story this week about Me using you as an instruction doll to teach three beautiful young Dominant Female students of Mine on proper edging techniques for long-term teasing and orgasm denial, at a week long private retreat in the Caribbean… Oh, and make sure that none of us let you cum all week long, and include lots of begging and ass worship. And I strongly suggest that you include sufficient detail about how your suffering feels, to make it more entertaining for Me.”

What often works quite well in terms of mind control and the sub’s obedience training would be for the Domme to learn more about his kinks and fantasies, and then begin dictating story scenes for him to write. The Domme could include anything She wants to throw at him, like the Caribbean example above, and ‘engineer’ his assignments to continually portray the Domme as his absolute Superior Female. For example the Domme could dictate a scene that is so specific and intimate that it requires the sub to think very sexual thoughts about Her, and in parallel to his writing assignment, She could require him to learn and recite a new mantra that further reinforces Her sexual control over him, like “I must not think about any other female without [my Domme’s] permission”.  This kind of mind-control writing/programming can be quite a mind-fuck for a sub, particularly one who gets into writing erotica. Writing assignments  like this would keep the sub constantly aware of his  acceptance of the Domme’s authority as he writes, and even when he is not writing.