The Secret of a Real Life Femdom Marriage: FLR Unraveled

Mistress and slave

The real life Femdom marriage is one of the most sought after subjects at the UoSS website. No wonder really! It is the most fascinating thing, what happens behind the closed doors of seemingly inconspicuous couples! Therefore I decided to bring to you even more authentic stories of experienced D/s relationships of Dommes and their subs, living in authentic FLR.

Last time you could enjoy the story of a FLR cuckold Steve in the articles The Real Life Femdom: Cuckold Stories and a The Real Life Femdom: A Male Chastity Marriage. Today, let’s enjoy the wisdom of a couple in their fifties. There is always great deal of truth and inspiration to learn from the earlier born and I love to hear what they can teach us! So let’s brace ourselves for the secrets of this successful FLR told by the male.

The True Story of a Real Life Femdom Marriage: FLR Unraveled

I am a submissive male (52) and I am married to a wonderful, dominant woman (50). My first wife was totally vanilla and had lost her respect for me very quickly after I had offered to serve her in all aspects of life. I was too urging and too offensive at that time, 20 years ago.

I learned my lessons (divorce) and for 15 years now I am allowed to serve my new divine wife with my strength and my labor force in love, obedience and devotion. We both have underestimated the energy the dominant part has to invest to keep the submissive part in line.

When not horny, I always tended towards the most comfortable path and she wasn’t always in the mood to punish me consistently and severely for being so inattentive. Sometimes it was frustrating for both of us.

Establishing the roles

So several years ago I suggested a game to my superior wife, which should help us both to establish our roles more permanently: I had secretly booked a fine hotel in the mountains and I wrote a fictional invitation to a slave bootcamp for couples. I had included a self written training manual, which was basically a checklist and a tutorial for the mistress how to train her slave.

The 4 days in the hotel were heaven for both of us. She eagerly completed one checklist after the other and trained me exceptionally strict and seriously. She did not skip any task and often brought me to my limits. On our way home she insisted to repeat the training more frequently in the future. That was more than I could have asked for.

Slave Training Manual

Why do I write this here? I’d like to share some of my training ideas with you and kindly ask for new inspirations, because my wife often asks for Part 2 of the Training Manual (;-). Here are just some topics from Part 1:

The Lady decides on the clothes of the slave (nude, chastity cage, whatever).

Removing his freedom of speech (Naming and Summoning)

The lady decides on the name of the slave (one for public, one for private use). The lady decides on a gesture or sound for summoning (clapping, snipping, stomping, etc.) Both practice summoning and dismissing for a few minutes.

Addressing the Lady and acknowledgement of commands

She trains him to adress her correctly (“queen”, “divine goddess”, “Miss”, whatever) and she teaches how she wants her commands to be confirmed. (“Yes, Madam”, etc.)

Removing his freedom of body posture (Posture Training)

The Lady learns to use simple commands (stand, kneel, lie flat, etc.) and to check his precise obeyance. Each posture is trained for several minutes. The lady must not tolerate any imprecise posture. If she is sloppy, the slave will be even more sloppy.

Removing his privacy

At any time the Lady may request access to the slave’s computer, email account, browser history, mobile phone data. Practice this several times a day. She should learn that it’s OK to demand it and he should learn to give up his privacy completely.

Removing his financial freedom

A responsible mistress will not misuse that, but she should command him to kneel down, present his purse, handover his cash or his credit cards (always using his both hands). Practice this several times a day. Both should become familiar with that gesture. Both should learn that it’s quite normal for her to claim his payment media. She will return it whenever she likes.

Removing his sexual privacy and freedom

She will learn to control his sexual functions. He will learn: a) that she decides on his chastity or ejaculations b) to hide his shame and masturbate kneeing before her, if she desires, c) to accept a chastity device if she decides.

And so on …..

It’s all about her taking control over more and more aspects of his life. In small steps, viable for both. And daily practice makes it normal for both.

What more aspects of a slave’s life would a dominant lady like to control? Please let me know. As I said, Part 2 of the Slave’s Training Manual waits to be written.

(6) Comments

  • helmut December 23, 2019 @ 3:08 am

    what about a collar around your neck while at home – mandatory

  • suman666 July 5, 2020 @ 7:50 pm

    Comment *I love to wear a coller and a chain openly to satisfy my mistress

  • Jim Hallahan April 24, 2021 @ 6:20 am

    62 years old married 40 years wife not interested in sex would surely love to learn how to turn this around to a female lead relationship

  • SS September 27, 2021 @ 5:50 am

    I am trying to introduce my wife to FLR. She is a natural dominant but when I mention about FLR she gets a bit shaky at the thought. Though I have experienced everything from her which qualifies her to be a domme. How do I make her get into this without scaring her

    • LSUS September 14, 2022 @ 8:15 pm

      Same thing happened to me. She actually tried everything once but didn’t like doing things a second time. Then we quit for a year. We started up again by me eating her one day then asking her if she wanted me in Chasity. She said yes. Then I asked her what release period I would be on a week, every 2 weeks or a month. She said a month. So we set it off the first Sat of every month. After 2 weeks of this with me eating her and her not having to reciprocate, she started opening up more. On my first release date she put the key in one of her hands and I had to pick a hand to open. I picked wrong and she’s holding me to it. I have been locked for 4 weeks now next chance not till Oct 1st. I also told her about locktober and no nut November and asked her if she wanted to do those and she said yes. So if I get a release in Oct it will be caged and then next chance Dec 3. This long term Chasity has really opened her up to dominating me in other ways and toys. And she loves to tease me and tell me no. The whole thing is torture for me but I’m in a constant state of arousal. You have to turn your submission into a game and be disciplined other wise she will quit. Like after I picked wrong I was softly begging and she offered to give me another chance to pick. I told her no bc it would not be fair to the integrity of her game and I lost fair and square. Also I had to learn to not over do it. The first time I was all over her. This time I act normal except for times where I come up to her hug her tell her how sexy she is and how much I want her. I always give her the opportunity to tell me no and then she laughs. I am also heavy into SPH. and she really likes that it makes her laugh.

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