The Real Life Femdom: 12 Years a Slave! The Male Chastity Experience 2

I am a submissive male living in a Female led relationship for more than 12 years. My Mistress is the beloved and revered PhDomme Emma herself! Because male chastity is an essential part in our D/s relationship, my Lady instructed me to write this blog entry. I will gladly shared with you my insights on male chastity experience. This is the second part of two parts series. (For the first part click HERE) Today you will learn about the permanent chastity, edging and cuckolding. All are the ultimate tools many experienced Mistress use in a long term D/s relationships!

Permanent Chastity

Male submission is based on male erotic needs. If a man is truly submissive, he knows that his desire to serve his Lady and his willingness to endure her whims and cruelty is linked to his excitement and sexual attitude. To become the perfect slave he should be kept permanently chaste. Male orgasms should be permanently denied – permanent chastity is the solution.

Don’t be scared now. It might not be possible to deny orgasms forever, but if they happen, they should not have a negative aspect on his obedience and the quality of his service. So an ejaculation should be permitted only exceptionally and only to maintain his physical and mental health.

Slave masturbation is permitted only as a special reward. He may kneel and masturbate under her supervision for a specified time period. A slave always needs explicit permission to ejaculate.

The ideal time period of continuous chastity is very individual and based on age, fitness etc. I can rrange from weeks to months. For me the optimum time is three months. So my devotion to serve is not reduced after an ejaculation and I still don’t feel depressed physically or mentally. I am horny like a dog in heat but that’s part of my training.

If my Lady would demand me to go longer I would obey. If she would demand permanent chastity, I could deal with that as well. I want nothing more than her to be satisfied with me. Once I was kept in chastity for almost 8 months. For sure there are slaves which may last much longer, but after that time my supressed arousal resulted in poor sleep, bad concentration and negative effects on other aspects of my daily life.

Keeping him on the Edge

That’s the reason why I humbly begged for an orgasm after that long time. The ejaculation had no negative effect on my submissive attitude but made feel better both physically and mentally.

Always keep in mind that it’s still a SSC (safe, sane, consentual) based relaionship. No Domme likes a depressed slave, but he should be eager and motivated to serve. Although the slave never is allowed to have usual sex with his Lady, he should be trained to perfectly satisfy her sexually, most of the times orally. Each Lady has individual desires and she can train him to fulfill her specific needs.

The slave must know exactly what his lady desires. Some women enjoy penetrative sex, so he can be fitted with a dildo fastened by a belt, replacing his chaste penis. This has many benefits: Sex is not limited by the slave’s endurance, the slave does not tend to adjust the rhythm of the intercourse according to his own feelings, but solely according to the instructions of the Lady and he cannot ejaculate. It is quite nice to discover that over time he will learn to experience his Lady’s orgasm almost as if they were his own.

But how is it possible to avoid the long-term satisfaction of a male who is very horny and his Lady demands sexual intercourse? Of course in a real female dominated relationship the slave never is allowed to have penetrative sex with his Lady. He never again has the right to penetrate a girl or woman with his penis. If the slave does not have any intercourse does not mean that the Lady shouldn’t have either.

Cuckolding

Over the last few year this topic has been gaining attention along with male chastity. It has been increasingly beeing practiced by a lot of couples. Basically the woman who has a permanent slave is free to have sex with other men and the slave has to accept it.

As with male chastity devices there are many reasons why a woman cuckolds her husband. One reason might be that the husband enjoys showing off the beauty of his wife and the woman enjoys her attraction and having sex with other men. Men often present their wife as a horny slut, send nude photos of her to potential lovers (sometimes without her knowledge), and often engage in sex with her with more men. The initiative is mostly in the hands of a man who urges his wife to sleep with other men and is primarily about his excitement.

A completely different reason is the true acceptance of a submissive male to be a beta male and therefore voluntarily accepts that his wife enjoys having sex withg other men as she sees fit. In this case the beta male assists her in preparing for her romantic lover by helping her to choose erotic lingerie, driving her to the date and to pick her up afterwards. The first steps into this situation mostly are initiated by the beta male, but after a while the Lady won’t give up this kind of sexual freedom any more. A slave often is present at his wife’s erotic meetings with her lovers and he acts as their servant.

For many submissive men it is also very exciting to know that in sexual aspects their adored Goddess is a very experienced and confident woman. Contrary to this the men have very few sexual experience.

Knowing that their beloved and inviolable Goddess fucks other men while keeping them locked up enhances their submissive attitude greatly. The slave is allowed to only kiss the soles of her shoes, while she spreads her divine legs and allows other men to please her like real men do. Locking his genitals without the slightest chance for relief combined with cuckolding him and giving other men all the pleasures which are denied to him, will drive him crazy. These are also the bittersweet pleasures of permanent chastity!

Interested in the Female led relationships and real life Femdom? Check also:

The Real Life Femdom: A Male Chastity Marriage

The Secret of a Real Life Femdom Marriage: FLR Unraveled

The Real Life Femdom: Cuckold Stories

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