The 4 Step Process to Talking to a Dominant on Social Sites and Getting a Response

Let’s get this out of the way. I am submissive down to a cellular level. This advice has been misconstrued as “How to get any women on Fetlife to have sex with you.” Sure, you could use this advice to try and get laid, and it might work, depending on how you approach her in your first meetings. Let me be clear, this is about finding a dominant women to serve, which usually does not result in sex for the male submissive. That isn’t my goal and if you’re serious about finding a dominant woman to serve, shouldn’t be either. Even if you like to top occasionally, and she is submissive or a switch looking for a new partner, in a way you are still serving HER needs by being that for her.

The four step process to getting women to DM you back and potentially meet up with you

It’s starts with honesty and reading her profile to see what she is looking for, if anything at all. Make sure you are compatible, same kinks etc. Be sure to have your profile filled out. If you want to find a dominant, you cannot slack it!

1. Follow her and interact with her content by leaving comments etc.

Many women get tons of DMs from total strangers. Offer to support her lifestyle by supporting her OF, Etsy, etc. Stand out, don’t be like 99% of the men on here. “I am going to fill you up slut,” etc. Tell her you love her content and would like to buy her dinner, or something off her Amazon wishlist etc. USE COMMON SENSE, is it a verified profile? Is she active in the community, and is a real person? Don’t send money or buy gifts for someone, if there is even a hint of doubt that she might be fake. Generally, the people I interact with online are established members of the local kink community.

2. When she gets your support, DM her.

No one liners, tell her about yourself and what you are looking for. Be honest, kind and respectful even if she is a submissive, remember she isn’t your submissive, unless she specifically states she likes controlling domineering men. If she is a switch or a dominant ask how you can further support Her. Don’t send multiple messages because you didn’t get a reply, she probably is very busy.

3. Once she feels comfortable, and sees that you are serious, exchange numbers/leave yours.

Once you begin texting, if you are both local, ask if you can meet up. Do something vanilla if you can, like coffee, or attend something public, like a munch.

4. Once you meet her remember to be honest and sincere.

Dommes are made every day as well as they are naturally born. With a good guide book in her hand or Domme friend to introduce her into the wonders of Femdom she might have had become one. Now we will never know. So the lesson for you is as follows: Don’t rely on what you consider to be “signals” of Dominance – especially if the “signals” are only clothing or bratty ways.

Don’t go into this expecting to get off, even if she agrees to it beforehand. She may not feel comfortable in the space, change her mind, or just had something come up in her day that ruined the mood for her.

In a way, it’s all about serving Her needs. If she is dominant or a switch, supporting her lifestyle will go a long way. If she is submissive, again, supporting her lifestyle will go along way. Maybe she her and her last Daddy/Dom split, offer to be that for her. Be honest with your expectations and experience. The worst she could say is no.

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