The Secret Femdom Mind Control Techniques Part II: A Manual for the Domme

This is the second part of the series on Femdom Mind Control Techniques. (For the first part click HERE) In this segment, we explore the importance of giving the slave a sense of purpose to help condition his mind. We then discuss the importance of assigning the slave targeted goals. And then we discuss the immense influence of orgasm control as a tool for improving the results of mind control conditioning. I hope you enjoy…

Giving the slave a Sense of Purpose

Even the most attentive, well-trained slave has room for growth and development. The Femdom Mind Control is a great tool to use! A Domme must be the One to provide Her slave with a sense of higher purpose in serving Her needs before anything else in his life. Of course, a Domme’s needs could be anything and everything. Housework, cooking, errands and  sexual service all come to mind easily. With some creativity and a sense of humor, any of these tasks become enriched by instilling the principles discussed here. But we will continue with the example of a personal writing slave to illustrate how to give a slave a higher sense of purpose in serving a Domme’s needs.

The Benefits Of Assigning Targeted Goals

Let’s assume a few things for this illustration: First, assume the Domme loves well-written D/s erotica. Secondly, assume the slave enjoys writing such erotica, and has a natural talent for writing. Consider the options available to the Domme: She could just let the slave write whatever he likes, and derive some pleasure from reading his work. Nothing wrong with that, but the slave will never evolve from simply regurgitating his own fantasies and kinks. But, She could instead take control of his writing process, and create specific writing goals for him to achieve in order to please Her. In a structured way, She could train him to understand that he really only exists to write for Her. In so doing, She creates the higher purpose for Her slave, and gains the ability to force him deeper under Her control.

She…
a) trains him to think only what She wants him to think about
b) allows him to write only what She wants to read
c) continually trains his mind to seek Her approval – and only Her approval –  for everything he writes, always leading him further away from any sense of self-reliance in his writing efforts
d) assigns goals for him, and when they are completed She assigns more, always reinforcing in his mind that he exists only to serve Her.
e) takes complete control of his orgasms so that he has no choice but to let Her thoughts become his own thoughts.
f) keeps Her thoughts prevalent  in the slave’s mind, saturating them with his own sexual energies.
g) artfully weaves Her thoughts into his own sexual fantasies, until there is no way for him to unravel them any more.

When She achieves this, She will own his mind and body in a meaningful way!

The Influence of Orgasm Control in Mind Control Conditioning

So, the Domme claims control of Her slave’s orgasms. But how does She assume real control over Her new writing slave’s mind? It is easier than One might think, and can be lots of fun too.  She can start by making him beg Her – as Her personal writing slave – to assume total and complete control of his entire vocabulary. This gives the Domme total freedom to forbid use of any words or phrases which She deems unnecessary or distracting to Her slave. For example, She May strictly forbid the slave from using any words which suggest that he is asking for an orgasm. Any and all phrases such as “Please, may I have an orgasm?” Or “Mistress, I cannot take any more of this!” become strictly forbidden.

In their place, the Domme dictates a single code phrase that the slave is permitted to use freely at any time, to convey his desire for  sexual relief. This should be a phrase that constantly conditions the slave’s mind and reinforces Her total control and absolute authority. Consider the mind-fucking power of a phrase like “My orgasm belongs only to Mistress, and I am grateful.” In a similar way, the slave can be required to recite this same phrase out loud like a prayer every time that he edges, and has to stop to prevent triggering orgasm. But this is just the beginning, My fellow Dommes!

Cage Match, Anyone?

This sort of mental mind-fuck is similar in concept to a Domme locking the slave in a steel cage like an animal. She could enjoy taunting him with the fact that he is powerless to get out of it without Her help, as She holds the only key. She could tell him the only way out of the cage is to kiss Her perfect ass, but then keep it just out of reach of his lips to torture him. But in the case of a ‘writing slave’, the Domme keeps the slave locked in a virtual cage of words.

She keeps all forbidden words safely out of reach and protected by an agreed safe-word. She denies the slave use of any words that might actually allow him to express what he actually wants. Both the Domme and slave would know the safeword, but only the Domme would control its use. Unless and until the slave sees or hears the safe-word, he must only use his code phrase to convey his sexual needs, as frustrating as that will be.

An Example Dialogue:

This is where the mind-fuck – the Femdom Mind Control at its best, can get intensely dark and erotic: Consider the psychological  impact to the slave when he receives a text from his Domme after a long period of edging, writing and orgasm denial, and the subsequent text exchange between them:

Domme: “I really enjoyed that last writing assignment you did, and I know you are really working hard to please Me as you should. So I am feeling very generous today. I think you have earned an orgasm, so I will permit you have one full orgasm in the next 24 hours, any way you want. Would you like that?“

Slave: (noticing that the Domme has purposely NOT included the safeword key, and realizing that he has only one permitted response): “My orgasm belongs only to Mistress, and I am grateful.”

Domme: Seriously?!! I offer you an opportunity to orgasm, and you hand it right back to Me? Am I being too lenient with you, slave? Come on. Think about how good it would feel… going past that trigger… those delicious muscular contractions… you must be ready to explode. Just tell Me you want to cum. That’s all you need to do”

Slave: “My orgasm belongs only to Mistress, and I am grateful,”

Domme: “Well if you cannot even ask for what you want, then you must not need it very badly. I highly recommend you take My generosity and be very grateful for it, because I am beginning to think that you really want Me to torture you. But… You do not understand what I can do to a boy like you. I can make you really suffer, and enjoy every second of it. Last chance, boy. And I warn you, giving Me the same answer will convince me that you are either ungrateful, or actually want Me to truly torture you. Either way the result for you will be the same. You have fifteen seconds.”

Conclusion

Making the slave use only his permitted response in this case would have a huge psychological impact on him, and induce much deeper levels of obedience and compliance.  This behavior would be due to his constant, reverent plea for mercy being masked in a statement of gratitude and acceptance. The  Domme would of course know that he is really horny and suffering. But instead of giving in and granting him relief, She tortures him with his own sexual need, and offers responses to him WITHOUT including the safeword. Doing this for any significant length of time would weaken the slave’s will in a meaningful way. And when all is said and done, isn’t that what We are striving for, Ladies?

I believe I explained why the Femdom mind control is something each Mistress/slave couple should incorporate.